However, she stopped short of asking Jesus to raise her brother from the dead. She said, 'If you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now, I know that whatever you ask of God, he will grant you'.

Martha shows us the third step: pour out your misery to Jesus.

In her diary, St. Faustina talks of a conversation she had with the Lord. Jesus told her that she has not surrendered everything to him. She asked him what it was that she had to surrender. Jesus told her to surrender her miseries.

In our life with the Lord, we will always have, not only difficulties and sufferings, but struggles, failings and sins. Yes, we need to give the best to the Lord. But we also need to approach him in humility – in our misery. We need to come before Jesus with our sorrows and our sins.

Notice also that the sisters blamed Jesus for the death of their brother. They approached him in their sorrow. They were brutally frank with Jesus. But in their sorrows, they knew to whom they can turn to.

When we come to Jesus, we come in our nakedness. We come before him as we are – sinners, beggars, creatures before our Creator. He wants not only the good in us – but Jesus wants most specially our misery. He wants to hold our misery and heal them.

If we sow in tears, he will give us laughter. When we pour out our misery to Jesus, he understands. In this episode, we read the shortest verse in scripture: He wept.

Jesus knows how we feel – that is why he calls us to come to him if we are burdened and he will give us rest. He understands and he wants to heal us.